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February 2012

Defining Success, Part 2: Values and Integrity

val·ue   [val-yoo]



relative worth, merit, or importance: the value of a college educationthe value of a queen in chess.
I mentioned that I’d be touching on the why of success. If you talk to any person who’s achieved success at at high level, every one of them will tell you that the why is 90% of achieving success. Back when I was in network marketing, my sponsor said to me, “If your why doesn’t make you cry at night, it’s not big enough.” While I don’t really agree with that, it does spark a good look at your thought process. While I am a fan of thinking big, I’m also a big fan of looking deep into myself. I feel internal work is more important than external work as that shapes our world (another post so I’ll stop rambling). In this case, you need to look deep and see what you value in life. Is it a belief? An action? A principal you live by?
Exercise: Write down your what you value in life. Look at the definition above and think of something that holds merit or importance in your life. The only rule I have is that it must be a belief, principal or an action. Your values can not be material items.  Why? Material things come and go in our lives and are, in many cases, easily replaceable. Values are not something that diminish over time. Also, refrain from including money. Once again, it comes and goes and can be replaced at any time (even in a downed economy). A good example of something I value is honesty (ok so this is thinking big).
The whole topic of values won’t be complete without another VERY important piece to the pie…

in·teg·ri·ty   [in-teg-ri-tee]



adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty.

the state of being whole, entire, or undiminished: to preserve the integrity of the empire.
I really like these two definitions as you can tell. I’m a big believer in the integrity piece. It’s not just doing what you say, it’s who you are. It’s living those beliefs even when no one’s looking at you. It’s being those values and merits. I mentioned that honesty is one of my values and ironically, it’s in the definition itself. This is a critical piece to any level of success, not just for the obvious reason of how you look to other people as well as yourself or other reasons. My spiritual mentor taught me a very interesting lesson…
How you do ANYTHING is how you’ll do EVERYTHING.
Lack of integrity shows up everywhere in your life. For example, if you’re willing to lie to get a job, what else are you willing to lie about? Do you lie to your family and friends? Your boss? The government come tax time (I don’t care how many people do it, YOU don’t need to)? Have a strong integral approach to life. Believe me, it will manifest in other areas in life. (another topic for another time).
There’s definitely more to the why side of things and I’ll be touching upon one of them in my next post. Until then, keep this in mind:
How have your values and integrity helped shape your life? Do you stick to them on a daily basis regardless of the situation?

Defining Success, Part 1: What is Success?

suc·cess [suhk-ses]



the favorable or prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors.

the attainment of wealth, position, honors, or the like.
These are the definitions I found at one of my favorite sites on the web (yeah, I’m a nerd). The dictionary is a great tool used to help look up the definitions of words we don’t know or don’t know the meaning of. I for one, actually enjoy looking up definitions of rarely used words as it’s just a way of expanding my knowledge. However, in a case like success, it’s a word we all are familiar with and have heard many times. I actually do feel this is a good thing as it gives the public something to aspire to. However, over the past few years, I’ve noticed many of the successful people I know, don’t fit any of these definitions. They’re not wealthy, at least monetarily, they aren’t leaders in some fortune 500 company, they aren’t even after some title or award. They’re small business owners, community focused and their recognition came through them helping the community. Their definition of wealth is very different. While it can and does include money, it’s not the main focus. They’re fueled by things like passion and great communication. It really made me ask the question:
What I found out is that success is different for every person. There is no cookie-cutter answer for everyone simply because we all don’t want the same things. We may want similar things but while one person may want a Chrysler the other may want a Ford. It’s just natural to have individual wants. So where does this leave success? Up to you. YOU must define success for YOURSELF! You have to define what it is that you want. What does success look like for you? In this case, we are focused on the “what” of success. The goal or end-result that you’re looking for. So try asking yourself some questions. Here are a sample of some you can ask based on  the theme of “what”:
1. What do I currently love to do?
2. What could I see myself doing for the rest of my life?
3. What does my day look and feel like?
Get as specific as possible when answering a question. This will help you define your definition of success. Next time we’ll take a look at the “why” of success.
Does your definition of success differ from the stock definition? How has it worked in your life?

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